tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7963954635935513841.post8205529594716642801..comments2023-03-24T05:50:57.382-07:00Comments on Jump on the Rollercoaster: Chewing gum and imaginary friends...Valerie Foleyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17144896658431548065noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7963954635935513841.post-77795798184250193632012-04-24T19:37:51.374-07:002012-04-24T19:37:51.374-07:00Val refers to it as 'insane' (to HER) in t...Val refers to it as 'insane' (to HER) in this blog post. Doesn't seem like she is hiding how she feels about the political movement of neurodiversity. As a member of the group, I am surprised. You said you had been thinking about leaving for a while. That it wasn't the right fit anymore. Now it was all one person's use of the word "nonsense"? You had a fight with Val and left the whole group? I'm sorry you feel she disrespected you with her choice of words. I feel you disrespected our community by leaving over it.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7963954635935513841.post-61074177258859677682012-04-24T18:25:23.468-07:002012-04-24T18:25:23.468-07:00Um...I am sure this will be deleted before anyone ...Um...I am sure this will be deleted before anyone reads it, but I feel like I must speak up on my own behalf.<br /><br />I did not leave the group because of Valerie's views on neurodiversity, and no one involved in the discussion made any such claim that NT moms cannot advocate for their kids. Heck, I am NT, so I certainly did not claim that I cannot advocate for my own kids.<br /><br />What Valerie has conveniently left off of her post is the fact that I left the group because she referred to neurodiversity as "nonsense." I am not making it up. She said "nonsense." When I objected to her use of a pejorative term to describe my belief system, she persisted in calling it nonsense.<br /><br />That is why I left. Not because of someone's opinion about my beliefs. But because of Valerie's blatant disrespect and insistence in using phrases like "the highest of the high functioning" and "barely impaired" as if to imply that people who fit into those categories are somehow less important in the autism community or less deserving of a voice than an NT parent. My "barely impaired" children suffer every day at the hands of the ignorant masses who insist that they conform to "typical" ways of being, despite the fact that there is nothing wrong with them except they are wired to be "different." They, and others like them, deserve just as much voice as anyone else.<br /><br />So, carry on, Valerie. Tell the story the way you want to tell it. But at night when you sit and think about your day, I want you to remember that your increasing anger, bitterness and venom was misdirected. I was never your enemy. I was someone who respected you and valued your friendship. You disrespected me. Sleep on that.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7963954635935513841.post-9068528921029794152012-04-19T14:39:58.331-07:002012-04-19T14:39:58.331-07:00I'm with Anna (as usual, lol).
I have actuall...I'm with Anna (as usual, lol).<br /><br />I have actually stopped following a lady on FB, because whilst I love a lot of what she says I was sick of being told I had no idea, nor could I ever understand my son. Like hell, I understand him as every mother understands their child. We are not clones, every single one is an individual, every single child has a separate mind, experiences, thoughts, life to a parent. Not just NT versus ASD. That is just bull.<br /><br />And whilst I agree with a lot of what you right, and disagree with some, it is the way you open discusion, listen, debate that keeps me here.Madmotherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18189416781378632230noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7963954635935513841.post-37760264287476491132012-04-19T06:25:18.705-07:002012-04-19T06:25:18.705-07:00Oh good grief if I am reading this right. Jesus w...Oh good grief if I am reading this right. Jesus wept.<br /><br />Someone actually said that NT parents are not good advocates? I'm NT and married to someone who is autistic. Guess who he chooses to do the advocacy and the interpretation of the NT world for himself and boys? Sure as shit ain't him.<br /><br />Also our MRI vomiting experience was in peak hour traffic after he was loaded with anti nausea meds, ate something, we waited until everyone was sure it was all cool.<br /><br />Hot vomit DOWN MY NECK IN PEAK HOUR TRAFFIC AND 45 MINUTES UNTIL WE REACHED HOME.Anna Vnoreply@blogger.com